I have been thinking about love letters this week; a lot, and wondering if they are a dying art. I wrote and received love letters when I was a teenager (ok it is a long time ago). But I still have all of these. They weren’t necessarily about love, per se, but a lot of teenage angst, some pen pal friendship, and quite often, regret.
Thing is that you can write love letters about any aspects of your feelings. The fact that you may be angry, disappointed, sad or fearful, it is just as important to communicate, as it is, your love. Indeed the fact that you are communicating is an expression of love regardless of the emotion.
Ok – I am not entirely sure that this is making sense so let’s talk about a friend who has not talked to either of her sisters in two years because they have reacted in an aggressive way to a perceived situation of my friends making. I am, of course, not assuming any right or wrong here, but the sisters have not spoken for two years.
When compiling her love letter she might write to her sisters assuming they are reading it with love and understanding. When she is communicating her emotions she might tell of her anger, then her fears, then her regrets. She might finish with her declaration of her love.
After signing off she must add a PS. The PS is the essential call to action. What does she want the recipients, her sisters to do? Call? Text? Email? Visit?
We quite often live our lives with regrets of things we have said or could have said and done. Yet we need not perpetuate this if we write a simple love letter.
Now I am not suggesting that you can’t be communicate by text and email but for me these don’t really work. The thing is with love letters is that you need to express not compress. This means elaborating with words.