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The Point of NO Return

imgresIf only I could learn to say the word no  ….  I mean; how hard can it be?

no, no, nO, No, no, no, nO, no, no, no, no, no, no, No, no, no, nO, no, no, no, no, no, no, No, no, no, nO, no, no, no, no, no, no, No, no, no, nO, no, no, no, no, no, no, No, no, no, nO, no, no, no, no, no, no, No, no, no, nO, no, no, no, no, no, no, No, no, no, nO, no, no, no, no, no, no, No, no, no, nO, no, no, no, no, no, no, No, no, no, nO, no, no, no, no, no, no, No, no, no, nO, no, no, no, no, no, no!

…. Such a small and innocent word that always seems to come out “oh go on then!”  And this – is the point of no return;

And your examples are?



  1. Well I guess saying no always comes with an explanation doesn’t it. So actually, it very really just a small word and saying yes always seems easier at the time. It does seem that some people get asked more often than others; do they give off a silent ‘no’ somehow that others can detect and do you give off an ‘oh go on then’ perhaps? Maybe the answer is to imagine what saying no more often would mean to you in the long term and feel comfortable with it.

    But If you can’t say no…


  2. Great coaching answer even if you didn’t give your own examples – but hey! You are the first person who has ‘got’ the Blog! Loved the Lennie Kravitz you tube link.

    Spread the word to music lovers.


  3. The trouble with you Laura is you are just too pleasant and helpful, if you want to say NO more often you will probably have to come across a bit like me; a cross between Alf Garnett and Victor Meldrew, now do you really want to live like me, talk like me, walk the world of NO like me? No, I don’t think so! Keep saying Yes, that’s our Laura who we all love and respect immensely!

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    CSNS – ‘Can’t Say No Syndrome’ is a very serious affliction, only overshadowed by the increasingly prevalent JCSNS ‘Just Can’t Say No Syndrome’.

    In order to overcome the terrible symptoms that this awful malady manifests, one has to come to terms with the fact that sometimes one has to be cruel to be kind.

    A fellow hitchhiker / client / customer / colleague will actually appreciate the honesty in saying NO, they would rather this than to be embroiled in the stinking mire / missed deadline / non-delivery / cold coffee situation over-stretching yourself will inevitably achieve.

    credit to Douglas Adams for his much missed style with words ;o) Apologies to non-geeks, I think this still translates.


  5. Ha! Saying the word is probably no (ha!) problem, once your heart and gut are saying it. What does it say about you to keep saying yes?

    I totally empathise however – stronger connection with my own goals is a work-in-progress antidote!

    Are you asking what other words are hard to say? Think the world could do with more ‘sorry’.


  6. A parenting book once taught me that instead of saying ‘no’, you say ‘yes, just as soon as’ eg instead of ‘no, of course we can’t paint, look at all the mess’ you say ‘sure we can paint, just as soon as all this is cleared up’! To translate it to a business setting it could involve saying ‘sure I can take that on, I’ll just have to put this other piece of work back to next week’. That way the person who has asked realises they can’t have a quart out of a pint pot, and that there are consequences. Saying yes to one thing often involves saying no to something else (sometimes our health and sanity!) Does that make sense?


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